Laundry Life Lessons

laundryPeople have a difficult time seeing things from someone else’s point of view. They hesitate to delegate a despised task because they wouldn’t want to do it so they wouldn’t want to trouble someone else with a hated task.

But delegation isn’t punishment.

Now what if you could hire someone that loves {hated task}? They are out there somewhere. I used to date a guy who would come home from work and fold laundry to calm his nerves! I probably kept him around longer than I should have just because of my sheer hatred of laundry.

So you hate doing this task… they love it. And they do it better and faster.


And you get the laundry folded as a bonus.

Integration and a Huge Mess in My Own Kitchen


I talk a lot about the importance of Integration and Grounding as steps in energy clearing. Integration itself is an act of putting energy and things “back where they belong”, or organizing them more efficiently. Kind of a leap in thinking for energy and soul work. But recently it’s a literal, physical lesson I’ve been learning.

My partner moved in with me in February. With that came a lot of learning points, how to work our schedules, how to work around one or both of us being sick, how to function when both of us had surgery within a week of each other (one planned, one emergency), and surprisingly, how to integrate our households. I thought “No big deal. David isn’t bringing any furniture, or large things. I organize other people’s houses *all* the time.”

Well **EFF** was I wrong. For 6 weeks, there was stuff everywhere. It’s been several months and somethings still don’t have a place. Read more

Curse of the Deformed Towel

towelsEf this towel in particular. This towel is like a boomerang in a cartoon. I just couldn’t get rid of it, without it turning up and smacking me in the face again.

I may have seriously broken up with a guy because he pulled this towel out of the garbage.

I don’t know for certain what happened to this towel. I purchased it at the same time as all of our other towels, but it’s now been floating around my house in it’s deformed state for several years. I avoid it at all costs, and usually grab it when I’m using a saw, painting, or need to throw one on the floor. Read more

An Honest Review of The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up

A few weeks ago, I watched a video on KonMarie’s The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, thought I should buy it, and surprisingly the next morning my READS ebook hold on it became available. I’d been on the hold list for months.

I picked it up and have noticed several things. First of all there is nothing overall Japanese about this technique. It’s based off a course created by the author. KonMarie is a decluttering expert (as we call them in the US), and she’s trained in Feng Shui and a few other practicalities- however she really only covers her course premise in this book.

As a Feng Shui Practicioner, books on tidying, cleaning, organizing, energy, and Feng Shui, are regulars for me, as a sort of research. I’m always looking for new ideas and perspectives. KonMarie is definitely not looking for new ideas or perspectives. She has a very prescribed set of instructions for her process.My eight year old daughter asked me what I was reading, and after I read her the title and a few lines,
she said: “Does that make sense to you?”
E: “I like some of her ideas, but some of it sounds a little obsessive.”
R: “I don’t have to touch our cats to know they don’t need to be discarded. What about all the items in the kitchen or the hangers?”
In the light of “takes one to know one” as I read Kon Marie’s description of her childhood and her stealth attempts to tidy and declutter for the rest of her family, lying about it, and getting in trouble, I see warning signs of obsessive compulsion. She mentions in her section on Loungewear clothing that she can be ruthless in not allowing her clients to keep normal clothes for loungewear.
I’ve only seen videos of KonMarie speaking Japanese. I don’t know if she is fluent in English. I’ve also seen some reviews of her book basically making fun of it, for her concern for the energy of rolled up socks not being able to breath and relax.
I enjoyed this book, however, I wonder if something wasn’t lost in translation. Some parts come across very ridged in their rule enforcing, and in others it seems like she might have been trying to make a joke-but it got lost in the curves of Japanese to English. I also think something might be lost culturally. I think Japanese readers might take her over-enthusiasm differently than Americans.
Read it or Not?
I’m not sure I’d buy a copy of the Life Changing Magic of Tidying, as this is readily available at most libraries. (I utilize our library endlessly so that we don’t spend our housing budget on books through.) I think she has some great tips. If you are able to pick it up and take away what works for you, and not feel guilty or oppressed when you don’t subscribe to all her sock-loving thoughts, I’d suggest picking it up. If it’s just going to become another volume in the stack of decluttering books, take this away- when you clean an area, clean all of it. Dump the drawer totally out, and hand things one at a time.
P.S. Folding is fun.
KonMarie claims that folding is fun, and that all but one of her clients has come away from her course having subscribed to that theory. I just have a difficult time believing this one. I give Riley $5 a basket to fold our laundry.